The Body Keeps The Score - Bessel Van der Kolk

A Meditation Series

The Body Keeps The Score

The opening chapters of *The Body Keeps the Score* introduce trauma as a force that deeply affects both the brain and body. Dr. van der Kolk explains how childhood trauma leaves lasting imprints on the nervous system, triggering a persistent "fight, flight, or freeze" response. Using case studies, he shows how trauma disrupts brain function, impairing emotional regulation, relationships, and bodily safety. And essentially the antidote is neurofeedback, to help rewire the brain and restore a sense of control.

Uncovering secrets

This week we move into Part Four, the Imprint of Trauma.

Our memory is fickle. Our stories change and are constantly revised and updated. When siblings discuss events in their childhood they can feel that they grew up in different families as so many of their memories do not match.

With the passage of time events tend to be bleached of their intensity. In contrast, those who have experienced severe challenges and trauma do not experience this, their memories remain essentially intact.

Whether we remember a particular event, and how accurate our memory is depends on its personal meaning to us and how emotional we felt about it at the time. The key factor is our level of arousal. We all have memories associated with particular people, songs, smells, and places that stay with us for a long time. Most of us still have precise memories as to where we were and what we saw on Tuesday, September 11, 2001, but can you remember where you were on September 10th?

Memories, the corners of our minds.

When a frightening or traumatic event occurs, the brain releases a surge of adrenaline, activating the amygdala, which plays a key role in processing emotions, particularly fear. This heightened state of arousal strengthens the encoding of the memory, making the event vivid and difficult to forget. The hippocampus, responsible for organising and contextualising memories, works alongside the amygdala but can be overwhelmed by extreme stress, sometimes leading to fragmented or hyper-detailed recollections. This mechanism is an evolutionary adaptation designed to enhance survival—by making negative experiences more accessible, the brain helps us recognise and avoid similar dangers in the future. Positive memories, on the other hand, tend to be processed with less urgency and emotional intensity, often fading more quickly since they do not serve the same immediate protective function. This is why traumatic or distressing memories are more deeply embedded and easier to recall than positive ones.

An antidote to this heightened recall of negative memories is practising mindfulness and staying present in the moment. Techniques such as deep breathing, meditation, and grounding exercises help re-engage the prefrontal cortex, allowing the brain to regulate emotional responses more effectively. By focusing on current sensations and experiences rather than being overwhelmed by past fears, we can create new, positive associations that gradually weaken the grip of traumatic memories. Over time, this practice helps rewire the brain, fostering a sense of safety and reducing the automatic recall of distressing events.

You are the Expert in You.

I am not assuming you have experienced severe trauma, but I know each one of us suffers and struggles and has experienced hardships and challenges. We know that life is inherently unsatisfying and that our drive to move beyond this is an important part of our survival. We also know that one of the keys to living a contented life is to be grounded in the present moment, and this is what we’re practising.

I am leading the sessions from a perspective of trauma to keep the space as safe for everyone as I can.

There’s no right or wrong way of doing these practices. We’re learning to take great care of ourselves. There’s nothing to fix, We’re exploring how to soften the edges and find safety

Be interested, and curious and as best you can bring a non-judgemental approach to your experiences

We’re learning to observe our habits and tendencies. To live life well. To be content and fulfilled.