2021

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Thank you for your ongoing support of my work at The Wellbeing Atelier. Simply taking the time to read my posts means a lot.

Over 2020 my life and work has changed and evolved beyond measure, I passed my driving licence in January so I could finally leave the village, using my new found freedom to run day retreats, a new group in Pézenas and offer Occupational Therapy at home. Then, well life took a turn for all of us, and having avoided online working I took the plunge and found it a beautiful experience, especially the tea drinking bit.  It was such a gift to be able to share the practices in this way….Italy, California, Wales, England and of course France. Thank you to everyone who came to my sessions and shared my work.

Meditation Ateliers
I miss offering the groups in Gabian and Pézenas and hope to be running them again soon, but for my own peace of mind, I have decided for January and February to offer the meditation ateliers online. The Friday Meditation Atelier is evolving to deepen practice into a 6 week course with worksheets and home practice, if that sounds daunting I promise you they offer delight and wonder. The Mindful Monday Atelier will continue over lunchtimes and is offered as part of the Friday course if you sign up before the end of the year. Read more here.

Occupational Therapy
I will continue to offer individual Occupational Therapy sessions here in Gabian, at yours and also online.  These sessions can support you in maintaining and developing your wellbeing, more information on what I offer here.  

From January I will be the first Occupational Therapist to be part of the ‘Get Loud! Stay Loud!’ team, a dynamic group of speech-language pathologists passionate about supporting those with Parkinson’s Disease in maintaining optimal communication & swallow function.  If you know of anyone who may benefit from this online platform do pass on the information here, the first month is free.

Updates
I have decided to close my Wellbeing Atelier Facebook page as I do not have the time to do the upkeep, you’ll find all you need on this website. If you prefer facebook you’ll find all the information regarding my work on my page which I use for professional work, or Instagram.

All going well…… March for in person groups, day retreats this summer and residential retreats for September time. Online groups are also going to continue and will form a staple part of the program. 

Finally, please, please reach out if you’re struggling, or know of anybody who could do with some extra support.  I have 18 years of experience working within various mental health settings in the National Health Service, most specifically women’s mental health and substance misuse, I can offer support and signpost to services.

With all that said.  May you be well, may you be at ease and may you be kind to yourself and others.

Mille mercis,
Josephine

The Red Lipstick

The Red Lipstick

I felt so directionless that first year of living in France, I didn’t know who I was any more. Without language I wasn’t able to communicate well, without working I didn’t feel valued. I questionned and analysed everything.

‘Oh!’ I was greeted with one morning outside of the school ‘You’re wearing red lipstick.’

I didn’t know whether it was a question, a statement or simply an observation. That was the start and the end of the conversation, the school gates opened the children ran in and I scurried off. I wanted the ground to swallow me up. All I could think was I’ve made another mistake, I’m drawing unnecessary attention to myself and this was the final in a long line of blunders that I was frustrated with myself for making (for example be mindful of your pronunciation of ergothérapeute, the french for occupational therapist, if you pronounce ‘peute’ like ‘poot’ instead of ‘putt’, like in golf, essentially you’ll be talking about an ergo prostitute). Whilst in retrospect my gaffs were amusing, at the time I in absolutely no way wanted to bring any further attention to myself. I wanted to fit in and belong.

The lipstick went in the bin.

When I envisioned my life here I’d thought this could be a time to introduce wearing red lipstick, a new ritual, an opportunity to reinvent myself, a fresh start in a new country.

I wanted everything so quickly, to arrive, speak french fluently and fit in immediately. It took a lot longer, sitting with the frustrations of things taught me to slow down. Turning towards the difficulties within my meditation practices rather than pushing them away. Things fell into place without me needing to do much more. I took care of my family, I studied, I meditated, I took tea and I waited.

I’ve made no New Years resolutions, I’m simply wearing the red lipstick as a nod to how far I’ve come. Dior, 999 if you need the specifics, the exact one I chucked away.

That comment came at a time that I was vulnerable and at times like these we are more likely to experience and express extreme reactions. I look back with kindness to myself, I responded in the best way I could have at that time. If I received the same comment now I’m sure I’d respond differently. But just in case I’ve rehearsed what I’d say if I received the same remark again:

‘Oui.’

Josephine Dolan-Dufourd lives in the south of France with her young family, she writes about life in France, Occupational Therapy, Mindfulness, Self-Compassion and Tea. If you would be interested in exploring with Josephine any of the themes she discussed in this piece you can find details about her work here.